Just Stop OVER-THINKING, Period
Anyone OVER-THINKING? Yesirrrrrrrrrs, I 'WAS' guilty of it many times in the past. BUT when I realized I was off-track then I thought I must Stop OVER-THINKING. Unfortunately, this cruel world we live in, always taught us that BEING BUSY is like a BADGE OF HONOR. It's just that so many of us define ourselves by WHAT we do. So, we end up OVERDOING, OVERWORKING❗❗❗No one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Friday, October 20, 2023
Just Stop OVER-THINKING, Period
Thursday, October 19, 2023
How Powerful Is Your ATTITUDE?
How Powerful Is Your ATTITUDE?
In the donkey years I've interviewed job applicants, sometimes I get flustered when someone will confront me this question: ARE YOU LOOKING FOR APTITUDE? Or ATTITUDE? Over time, I never waivered with my response without batting an eyelash, repeatedly declaring that those are my two candidate options, I'll pick ATTITUDE over APTITUDE. Few times I got challenged with this statement: ARE YOU SURE? WILL YOU HIRE SOMEONE ONLY TO TRAIN HIM IF HE HAS A SHORTFALL IN HIS APTITUDE? Without hesitation, i would always retort: ABSOLUTELY BY ALL MEANS. So, I hope this is NOT something we got to debate on for today but instead, let's spend time to figure out How Powerful Is Your ATTITUDE❓❓❓Indeed, many people are trapped in NEGATIVE THINKING that leads to FEAR, FAILURE and even UNHAPPINESS. Though they may long for greater achievements, better relationships and happier lives, they are mired in a spiral of NEGATIVE THINKING, complaining, whining and sadly, many would give up even wishing for change and settle for a boring and unfulfilling lifeπππ
Now, frankly speaking, if that is YOU, it does NOT have to be that way. That NOT so secret recipe for a happier and successful life is NOT to change your circumstances [because you often CAN'T] or to control what others do [because you NEVER can]. Instead, it is to CHANGE the one thing which you have absolute authority and that is spelled A-T-T-I-T-U-D-Eπππ
Now, it's been proven over and over again that people with a POSITIVE outlook are happier and more successful and ultimately, have greater career satisfaction, which adds up to one's life 'HAPPINESS METER'. The reason for his is fairly simple. Our ATTITUDE has that incredible power to shape our own life. On the other hand, NEGATIVE THINKERS see NEGATIVITY, think NEGATIVE thoughts and develop NEGATIVE habits, ouch❗❗❗This is NOT my bragging rights but looking back, if I had entertain any NEGATIVITY in my life, I would NOT be what I am. Ooops obviously, I never reached the pinnacle of corporate success, e.g. to be a CEO [but frankly, both my feet are firmly on the ground and as we speak now, I can cockily admit that the power of ATTITUDE is the #1 factor that pushed my trajectory this far, this high. That should explain as to HOW POWERFUL our ATTITUDE is✅✅✅
When Everything Turns TOPSY-TURVY
When Everything Turns TOPSY-TURVY!
Ever been in TOPSY-TURVY land? Yes, been there, done that [and I ain't go back there if I could control it]. WHY? Because, When Everything Turns TOPSY-TURVY, we can peruse everywhere to find a FIX but it will be akin to finding for a NEEDLE IN A HAYSTACK. What that means, the probability of finding that FIX is very low if not NIL. But the question is, do we just raise the white flag When Everything Turns TOPSY-TURVY❓❓❓Wednesday, October 18, 2023
Handling A 'Double Whammy' in FEAR + SADNESS
Handling A 'Double Whammy' in FEAR + SADNESS
FEAR itself I admit I'm afraid to manifest it. Top it up with SADNESS, then Handling A 'Double Whammy' in FEAR + SADNESS will be seriously in question as far as I'm concerned. But I learned [NOT so early] in life that indeed it is impossible to think clearly once we are overwhelmed with FEAR. And that time, my high school teacher did teach us a practical way, that is, try taking TIME OFF for us to physically calm down. It could even be as simple as distracting yourself from that FEAR for 15 minutes by walking within your perimeter area, preparing coffee or even taking a quick showerπππ
Sometimes when getting into 'panic' mode becomes inevitable, BREATHE THROUGH IT, so to speak. Let's take a real-life example when you start to get a faster heartbeat or your palms are sweating profusely [way beyond what is normal]. And if you are in the middle of a conflict, will you TAKE THE PLUNGE? No sirrrrrs, DON'T get embroiled into a fight at that very moment. Yes, you can feel that 'panic' mode which, to borrow the psychology jargon, it TAKES THE FEAR of FEAR awayπππSimply put, our practical approach is to help our mind get used to coping with PANIC. On the other hand, experts have screamed in unison NOT to avoid FEARS because avoiding FEARS only makes them scarier. Whatever our FEAR is, once we face it, in a natural kind of evolution, it should start to fade [until you would realize that it seemed to have DISSIPATED IN THIN AIR. An example is that FEAR of taking the elevator [or lift]. Come next day, do take that elevator [or lift] again. Trust me, that previous FEAR which seemed like a hard rock, would gradually [or sometimes] so swiftly evaporate with little effort you are unconscious to have to have exerted any, if at all✅✅✅How about painting 'worst case scenarios'? In the past, there was an endlessly raging debate whether that should be a DO or a DON'T. In the end, studies have proven that by imagining the worst case scenarios, while it may NOT be possible or just plausible, by painting the 'worst case scenarios', we will realize that eventually FEAR will 'run away'. WHY? And HOW? The curt answer is thar facing things head-on is the best antidoteπππAnd how's the equation when SADNESS creeps in? That should NOT be a concern because, just like typhoons and cyclones, SADNESS too shall pass. Obviously, one will go through those phases of SADNESS but that too shall pass. When it's way past behind us and we manage to handle FEAR [instead of FEAR taking over our life], pat yourself because you're on the precipice of handling a 'DOUBLE WAMMY' when FEAR + SADNESS ❗❗❗STOP Worrying On Things We CAN'T Control
STOP Worrying On Things We CAN'T Control
Worrying stems from our common desire to be in CONTROL. And we often want to CONTROL our environment within us. OR we may want to CONTROL over the outcome of practically every situation [which is downright wishful thinking]. And the more we try to CONTROL everything around us, the more anxious we become. Can we just STOP Worrying On Things We CAN'T Control❓❓❓
Imagine when we are trapped in that VICIOUS CYCLE to break, WORRY [to gain CONTROL], then we FAIL, then we WORRY [again]. Then the whole cycle repeats itself. Indeed, worrying on things we CAN'T control [like someone's behavior] will drain us of that mental strength where we need to be at our best. Sadly, this dilemma may also lead to other toxic habits [like ending up to be blaming our own self too much [or worse, even micromanaging other people]]. But we are still fortunate because we DON'T have to resign to end up as a lifelong 'worrywart' ❗❗❗While there are many self-proclaimed experts more than willing to help extricate us from that VICIOUS CYCLE, I stumbled across two tricks [which we all need to patiently learn and develop]. First off, let's DEVELOP A REALISTIC SENSE of CONTROL. Let us identify WHAT IS WITHIN OUR CONTROL and WHAT ISN'T. A simple case is you can CONTROL how eye-catching the webpage you will develop but you can't CONTROL whether people will ever visit your webpage and if they, will they positively rave with regard your webpage. If you're a manager, you can give your team members the productivity tools BUT you can't force them to be productive❎❎❎
Tuesday, October 17, 2023
Opinions Will Continue To Hound You
Opinions Will Continue To Hound You
Lao Tzu, the respected Chinese Philosopher way back 571 B.C. was widely quoted "CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THEIR PRISONER". And there's no need to dissect its message because it's right there on the surface. So, Opinions Will Continue To Hound You and NOT to be judgmental, take it either either positively OR otherwise. BUT brace yourself that predominantly, the OPINIONS will be more slanted to their favor than yours. And the gross unfairness here lays on the fact that those OPINIONS will remain such unfettered, uninhibited and unrestrained, which when all combined, will place you on a handicapπππWhen someone gives an unsolicited OPINION on you OR about you, do you feel that kind of discomfort rising inside when that someone is imparting their unsolicited OPINION? NOT just any kind of wisdom but the one that makes you feel small and somewhat slighted? Truth is, a covert little criticism implying that you might NOT be doing things rightπππNormally, our first reaction will be utter DISBELIEF, right? Then DENIAL follows close to the heel. Then, your ANGER takes over and you tend to shout from the top of your voice [sometimes STILL deep inside you]. Unfortunately, what seemed like shouting was just a thought. That witty retort you wanted to scream at them? And that never left your lipsπππOh, in the end, as an afterthought, you could be saying that you only disagreed with them in your mind. And worst of all? After you leave the scene and mull the incident repeatedly, you begin to think they might be right. And that's a tragedy, OH OH. So, what's our FIX for this? Consider injecting SELF-TRUST. In the past, I used to believe that other people's bad OPINIONS of me DIDN'T affect me at all, so I was shocked then to discover that they literally paralyzed me and stymied my progress. And since other people DON'T LIVE YOUR LIFE, you can only live it for yourself❗❗❗
Next off, similar to the immunizations we had during the Covid Pandemic, get 'IMMUNIZED AGAINST OPINIONS'. So HOW? Unravel the ball. Like a wool of yarn, the kind of reactions you learn and display to each situation you encounter get layered and imprinted in your mind over time. Look beyond the obvious issues to get to the very root and core of it. Thereafter, KNOW THYSELF. Figure out what you're good at by confirming your real strengths. Still NOT enough? RESET YOUR REALITY. Thoughts become disturbing when you take them too seriously. These are your countermoves because Opinions Will Continue To Hound You✅✅✅
Forgiveness Will LIKELY Lead Us To PEACE
Forgiveness Will LIKELY Lead Us To PEACE
Everyone would love and savor these moments when we can be just strumming the guitar to our own beat because moments like that can be translated into a five-letter word spelled P-E-A-C-E but achieving it is easier written in blogs. Achieving the real, genuine and lasting PEACE may need us to summon the courage to extend Forgiveness as it will LIKELY Lead Us To PEACEπππExperts have proclaimed, in unison, that FORGIVENESS could be the greatest gift we can give to our own self. And their studies have proven that FORGIVENESS releases toxic thoughts of anger, resentment, shame, bitterness, grief, guilt, regret and hate. WHEN someone wrongs us somehow, we might feel certain that we'll NEVER be able to get over itπππI can share this openly. In the past, even my immediate anger simmers down, I tend to continue dwelling on that difficult moment instead of letting it fade into memory. That act of FORGIVING, on the other hand, can be such a powerful tool to our well-being. When we FORGIVE someone, we choose to GIVE UP our NEGATIVE feelings regardless if that person deserves it or not✅✅✅Further studies show that FORGIVENESS is associated with improved physical and mental health BUT let's admit it, it's NEVER easy because only our innate capacity for FORGIVENESS offers hope that it is indeed possible. And indeed it is incredible to hear people FORGIVE. To quote the experts, FORGIVENESS is our medicine for our body, mind and spirit [and it does NOT require any doctor's prescription]πππSo, WHY should we really FORGIVE? Not to scare but evidence [from studies] is mounting that holding onto painful memories and bitterness will VERY LIKELY result in long-term health problems. Run a random check across all cultures, those folks in their 80s and 90s as regards their recipe for a longer life, they will sum it all in that five-letter P-E-A-C-E as forgiveness will LIKELY Lead Us To PEACEπππ
Monday, October 16, 2023
How To Keep Going In TOUGH TIMES
How To Keep Going In TOUGH TIMES
Remember those times we were on a steep uphill climb in life? Surely, everyone went through their respective TOUGH TIMES in life. Problem is, that is part and parcel of our life and there's NO way to ever shield or exempt us from those episodes. What we need to face head-on is How To Keep Going In TOUGH TIMESπππThe harsh reality we continue to face is that our world itself has been lurching from one crisis to another. After that global pandemic, which did cause dramatic changes how to conduct our daily lives, economic uncertainty has creeped in [WHO has not heard of escalating inflations in almost all countries?]. Even social and political turmoil were NOT left behind. Then we factor in the personal traumas people also need to deal with. Declining health, unemployment, separation/divorce or worse, even violence and accidents aroundπππSo indeed there is just NO WAY for us to avoid sorrow, adversity or distress in life. BUT here's something to soften things up, HOW TO KEEP GOING IN TOUGH TIMES. The least we can do [within our limitations] is to 'smoothen the rough waters' because it is imperative that we REGAIN CONTROL of the situation at hand. Easier said than done but we need to better adapt to unexpected life-changing events πππThe more difficult part is for us NOT to tag our inadequacies as a CHARACTER FLAW when sometimes we're more sensitive to emotional distress and are finding it difficult to cope with hardship OR adversity. Our favorite character-building trait to be nourished is RESILIENCE. It is NOT such a 'macho thing' to build RESILIENCE because that is an ongoing process that requires quite an effort to build and maintainπππWhile it is often difficult to imagine anything good coming out of traumatic experiences, building RESILIENCE can help us find any [and sometimes the remaining] POSITIVES in the most difficult moments we would face. Think of a life where the gloomy clouded skies will deter us and dampen our spirits to carry on our pursuits. While it's NO CAKEWALK, HOW TO KEEP GOING IN TOUGH TIMES is no rocket science✅✅✅Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fire
Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fire
You and me will agree that being in that frying pan alone will be an ordeal because we could end up TOAST. But can we agree farther that Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fire will be the 'mother of all ordeals'? Even the multiplier effect of the intensity of that 'HEAT' where we get directly exposed is already unfathomable. Let's simplify things. What if you were fighting gangs all by yourself but it was a 'cat and mouse' tiff as you were smart enough even when ON THE RUN. Not until you would realize that being on the frying pan is not the end because Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The FireπππLooking back, I've been into the frying pan countless times in the past. And for me to downplay those ordeals will make me a sheer hypocrite because the SURVIVAL RATE is considerably on the low given that during those situations, all the CARDS ARE STACKED against you. And as you slip and slip down the line, your remaining hopes continue to flicker and dwindle until you up with a single coin where you will end up with just two options, of flipping that solitary coin. Unfortunately, there is a fair chance that HEADS YOU LOSE and TAIL YOU [still] LOSEπππ
Comparing things apples to apples, having a tiff or even a heated fight within your family makes you [STILL] better off versus a worst case scenario when and where either family member has already WALKED AWAY [and probably having BURNED THE BRIDGES] by then. At that point, that becomes analogous to Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fireπππ
You might get back at me and ask, HAVE I BEEN Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fire? Nein. Nada. Het. Tidak. Otherwise, I won't be right here on my laptop, spending a luxury of my personal 'off time' for my deep-seated passion to blog and write. In case you want to push me farther and throw a hypothetical question WHAT IF I was Thrown Into The Fire? Good grief. IF I may play my 'Nostradamus' card, I'll sadly admit I'm non-existential IF that I ever ended up that pathπππAll is NOT lost though once you end up Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fire. So how? RUN RUN RUN for your life. This is NOT the end-of-the line for you but the insight we're picking up today is, summon anything and everything within yourself and will yourself out because Being Thrown Out Of The Frying Pan And Into The Fireπππ
Sunday, October 15, 2023
Choose Your Battles
Choose Your Battles
Hey Hey Hey, if we are fully armed, can we just go out there, pick on anyone and expect to remain unbruised and end up as the last man standing? No sirrrrrs. Even history tells us that the generals from way way back. Napoleon, the great French general who was heavily bemedalled and decorated with so many battles won found his ill-fated invasion of Russia as the final nail on his coffin as the sheer size and climate of Russia decimated Napoleon's forces. If only he heard that we got to Choose Your BattlesπππKnowing what battles to fight [or which ones you should either avoid or leave behind, or worst, even walk away in the middle of the skirmish] remains the most critical to success. If and when we find ourself fighting too many battles [on too many fronts], trust me, you and me will end up heavily drained whether emotionally, mentally or even physically. What then worsens things is that the quality of life and even our performance whether at work or in our business will be impacted. Who says fighting too many battles will NOT take its toll on us❓❓❓So HOW do we CHOOSE OUR BATTLES? Thinking that you have to fight a battle that actually belongs to someone else is a very easy mistake to make. Sometimes we do get involved in another person's battle without even meaning to. Alternatively, we might be the kind of person who likes to 'stick it up' on behalf your timid colleagues. If at all, RESIST falling into that trapπππThen, down the line, let's ask ourselves, WHAT DIFFERENCE WILL WINNING THIS BATTLE MAKE IN OUR LONG TERM? To answer that question, step back and look at the BIG PICTURE because that might mean your strategy. OR your relationship with your boss at work. OR might mean the direction of your career [which you DON'T want to get derailed]. When you consider all the possible outcomes, assess how will they affect the BIG PICTURE❎❎❎Then flip the coin and ask yourself, WHAT IF YOU LOSE that battle? This is the way to go, assess things both ways. An evaluation of the downsides is NOT a reason to avoid going to that battle BUT instead weighing the downsides against the upsides in a clear-headed fashion will help us down the road to identify if IS IT REALLY WORTH FIGHTING THAT BATTLE? Then if you DON'T fight that battle, will you ever live with yourself afterwards? Point is, whichever tack you take, you should NOT be remorseful or regretful at all in the future. Do Choose Your Battles in lifeπππ
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